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The Best Mom Advice To Surviving The First Year

Saturday, March 30, 2019


This article was first published on A Mother Is in March 2019

Whether it’s your first, third or fifth child you will quickly realize that people love to give all sorts of parenting advice. This can be so overwhelming for any new mom. You will hear the countless comments about what others did that worked for them. As a mom of four I’m here to give you a little hope and to let you know that all babies are different. The pregnancies and postpartum months will all be different. You will struggle with different issues each time and question yourself. For me, it was the until baby number three that I quickly realized the struggles moms can have. 

I successfully breastfed two babies, both times making it almost a full year. There was no doubt in my mind that I wouldn't be able to exclusively breastfeed the third time around. It wasn’t until the two month mark that we started having issues and we both struggled just make it to that sixth month mark. This is when it became apparent that all of my journeys would be different. What worked the first time might not work now. But that’s okay, because this is YOUR journey. 

I found it hard to accept help when my babies got past six weeks. It’s just this natural mama instinct to want to do it all ourselves. If someone would offer to bring us dinner I would feel guilty. “My baby is almost two months old, I should be capable of making my family dinner again right?” 

I believe the biggest misconception about postpartum is that moms feel that once their babies get to a certain age, they should be able to “do it all” again. This is the farthest thing from the truth. Mom’s should never feel guilty about getting help especially during the first full year. Let someone make you dinner, let them babysit so you can get a few extra hours of sleep or a shower. The first year is always the most challenging- getting help from others will make it easier for you. Plan an afternoon out of the house doing something you love, go on a date night with your husband, and my all means don’t feel guilty if your friend wants to come over and help you fold the laundry. The best advice for surviving the first year of motherhood is more simple than we think. Just take the help and do something that makes you happier every now and again. Take it from me, It will make you a better mama!