Moms Stop Feeling So Guilty | Balancing in High Heels

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Moms Stop Feeling So Guilty

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

My current view- staring at my computer screen trying to get some work done but let's face it, it will probably be interrupted. I've got a toddler right beside me that has been running a fever for the last four days. All you other mama's can relate. Caring for sick babies is just exhausting. Although I wouldn't have it any other way.  

We have pretty much been a one person income our entire marriage. We got married, moved to a new town and had a baby. Five years later and we have moved again and added another babe. Until last year we pretty much lived just off of Barrett's income. Which I know many of families do! I'm BEYOND grateful that we have had this opportunity. For me to stay home take care of the house, babies and everything else. One reason I decided to make my blog full time was because I was kind of drowning in all of that. I needed something for myself and it has been such a blessing. 

This past summer after we moved I started working two days a week outside of the home. It was great because it gave me an opportunity to meet new people in a new town! 

Before I took on my blog full time and before i started the two day work week I would find myself feeling guilty. Every time I swiped the debit card I would panic. Every time I would go to target and they would tell me my total I would panic. I would find myself telling my husband when I spent six dollars at starbucks only with him to reply, "babe it's fine- get your starbucks! you don't have to tell me!" like all  moms I would find myself cutting corners in my own things just so everyone else could have things. I get all this is totally normal. 

I felt guilty for not contributing to the income. There are many times I would cry to my husband saying. " I just feel like I'm not helping out, what can I do?" and every single time he replies. "You are doing exactly what we need you to do. You're cooking meals, getting kids up, dressing them, feeding them, doing laundry, cleaning the house and everything else." 

Mom's that stay at home- stop feeling guilty about it. Being a full time mom, housekeeper and chef is ENOUGH. Mom's that work from home- stop feeling guilty about sitting at your computer doing work when there is five loads of laundry that can be done. Mom's that work full time- stop feeling guilty about not being at home 24/7. 

We are all doing what is best for our families.